The end of the year always nudges us to reflect about the year leaving us while a new year is standing by. It’s a brief and subtle transitional time; before we walk across the bridge to 2019, which is eagerly waiting with a blank canvas to be covered with new stories, chapters, events, and memories yet to be. No doubt, these memories will be etched in our psyche as long as we live. However, before you open the door to a new year, give some attention and thought to the year that has gone by to make sure you don’t leave empty-handed.
Give 2018 one final look and make sure you take all the life lessons and gifts that came with each life experience you’ve endured, because with every heartache, disappointment, sadness, as well as joy, it gave you new tools and allies to make the next year more deeper, healthier, wiser, and magical, if you allow it. It really is a choice. You can leave empty handed or a pocket full of your own courage and strengths that came from surviving another year in the mysterious game of life. Not everybody did, but you did. It was quite brilliant. So, give yourself that one final look into your 2018, and say thanks and goodbye, and keep walking and keep living…
BENEFITS OF JOURNALING
ne of the best ways to find some clarity, reduce stress, release, and to get a glimpse inside ourselves and our complex lives is through the act of writing; journaling.
There are countless benefits of journaling, documented by endless scientific evidence. Writing down our thoughts and emotions helps us connect with ourselves and our life experiences, releasing tensions, frustrations, anxiety, and fears, that maybe harming us loudly and silently. Journaling uses our own imagination and creativity to be insightful to help us find solutions and understanding, as well as discover our wishes and desires buried deep within us.
Take a few quiet moments before you go to a New Year’s Eve party or before the family and relatives come crashing through the front door on New Year’s Day to write down some of your thoughts, emotions, stories, etc. (whatever you want). Don’t think too much. Just start writing and it will help you discover more about yourself and you’ll feel lighter in more than one way.
Here are a few things I focus on when I journal at the end of the year to help me say goodbye to another year of my life. Here are 5 ways…
Release & Let Go
Write and release all the fears, anger, sadness, and disappointments, so you don’t carry much of that unnecessary baggage to weigh you down in a brand new year. Nobody needs more baggage. So, let it rip and leave it behind in a safe place. You’ll feel so much lighter.
The Good You Did
Very few people focus on all the good they’ve done. We are preoccupied with all the bad, the negatives, and our shortcomings, and we are so good at beating ourselves up for not doing more; not being more. This only works against us. So, this time write down some or all the good you did in 2018, and take a good hard look several times and put those in your mental pocket to secretly give you strength during the inevitable hard times in 2019 and beyond. These are your weapons and allies. Keep them by your side to let it help you always.
Keep it Simple & Gentle
As you journal, keep it simple (this is not a novel) and give yourself some quiet time and space. Try to write without judging or attacking yourself, but rather with kindness. You’ve been through a lot and you don’t need to beat yourself up again. This is your life; from your heart and soul, and definitely worth writing about.
Hopes & Dreams
Write down a few of your hopes and dreams. No long list, please. That always works against you, as you set yourself up for disappointments later on. Instead, focus on what you truly want in a new year for yourself and not by someone else. You don’t need to create a strategic blueprint right now, but let yourself dream a little and go from there. It will evolve as the New Year grows.
Read the Journal
Make sure you read what you’ve written. It’s a different experience. You might even be surprised that you wrote those words. It’s all part of who you are and getting to know yourself better, so you can be all that you were meant to be.
Writing down my thoughts, good and bad helps me see things more clearly about myself and where I am going. It also helps me set my expectations for the New Year. I hope it does the same for you.
Happy New Year My Friends!